What do you do when a person you thought loved and cherished you says or does something so deeply and profoundly hurtful you are thrown into an abyss?
There are several steps that have to be taken. Steps that are a challenge when you are emotionally healthy and more of a challenge when you have been deeply wounded.
1. Was the event really ‘deeply and profoundly’ hurtful? Are you adding a dimension that isn’t really the truth? (I told you these steps would be a challenge.) If you decide that this was an act that was truly intentional and deliberate then you must see step 2. If you believe the act was just another thoughtless action that hurt you, you may want to look at step 2 and make different decisions about this relationship.
2. Look at the big picture. What is it you want from this relationship? What is it you are getting? If it is a situation where you took vows remember prayer will be your source of power. If you see the big picture and this event can’t be reconciled, forgiven, and put into a perspective that doesn’t forever alter the big picture you have some deep decisions/choices to make.
3. Let it rest for a time before you make any decisions. Often when an event occurs in a relationship and you take time to consider its ramifications the change you make will be for your highest good.
I had to look at one of my relatioships recently. After I went through all the steps I was able to clarify the type of relationship we have, accept it, and stop trying to make it into something deeper. That for me is a good thing.
Oils that give support are Valor, Clarity, and Stress Away.